How To Make Good New Year’s Resolutions

When one year ends and another starts, we tend to reflect on our past year (and our entire life) and plan to change... well... everything in the coming year. What could you do to make this self-reflection easier and make the new year better based on that? Or in other words, how do you make New Year's resolutions that work for you?

Let's start with the basics.

New Year’s resolutions


What is self-reflection and why is it important?

Reflection (often called self-reflection) is a practice where we review our past activities, find out our strengths and weaknesses, and then improve, develop, and change our activities in the future.

One definition of many:

Reflection is defined as the process of engaging the self in attentive, critical, exploratory, and iterative interactions with one's thoughts and actions, and their underlying conceptual frame, with a view to changing them and a view on the change itself. (Nguyen et al. 2014)1

There are a lot of studies about reflection, including various models and its application in different professions.

You can use reflection in all professions and also in your personal life. There are no limitations to its use.

A study of Harvard Business School2 showed that reflection significantly increases the ability to successfully complete a task. The study also showed that reflection improves confidence in one’s ability to deal with a specific task.

In addition, reflection

  • influences the process for personal change and growth,3
  • increases self-awareness,4
  • identifies personal and professional strengths and weaknesses,5
  • increases learning from an experience or situation,5
  • facilitates persons to understand their own beliefs, attitudes, and values,5
  • encourages self-motivated and self-directed learning,5 and
  • acts as a source of feedback.5

As entrepreneurs, the reflective practice assists us in both personal and professional development. Without reflection, we would wander in total darkness. We would not have any clue what our choices have created or what were the results of each activity.

 

Would you like to make a great kickoff for 2020 for you and your business? 

I have created a simple workbook to assist you in reflective practice and creating a better year for you and your business.

MY DREAM YEAR OF 2020

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How to perform self-reflection:

You can reflect on your personal life as well as your professional life and your business.

There is no right or wrong way to do reflections. You'll gain awareness by asking questions.

However, there is one question which won't bring you any awareness. This question is "Why?" As you probably understand, the main idea of reflection is to change and develop. "Why," on the contrary, forces you to find the cause of your choices, actions, or results – thus focusing on reasons why certain things happened. By asking "why," you keep yourself from moving forward and making any changes.

The easiest way is to start with a few simple questions:

  • Where did you succeed last year?
  • What difficulties did you face last year?
  • What would you like to continue?
  • What would you like to change?

Take your time. You can start by allocating ten to fifteen minutes for each reflection session.

You can answer using bullet points or do some journaling. I suggest you use a method that suits you and doesn't scare you away from this task. The idea is to find some clarity, not provide punishment.

When reflecting, don't dwell on all your problems, misfortunes, failures, and bad luck. The idea of practicing reflection is to get insights and awareness, and then change your future. You could ask, "What can I change here?"


”Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again." – Richard Branson

 

You can also ask for assistance. You can work with a coach, mentor, therapist, or colleague. You can also work with me.

 

What can you do with these answers?

You can use your reflection answers to create your life and business. Continuously.


“There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other.” – Douglas H. Everett

 

Let me tell you some advantages of having a plan:

  • It lets us drive our lives and business, rather than letting our lives and business drive us.
  • It gives us more clarity on what we would like to have in the future.
  • It adds joy and satisfaction.

 

"Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions." – Albert Einstein

  

A word of warning when making plans

Our lives, businesses, and environment are not static. Everything changes. EVERYTHING. All the time. So please review your plans. And practice reflection. You can allocate ten to fifteen minutes of your time to reflect on your life and business daily (or at least weekly). When you notice that it's time to make some changes to your plan, make them.

 

“The only thing that will stop you from fulfilling your dreams is you.” – Tom Bradley

  

Would you like to make a great kickoff for 2020 for you and your business? 

I have created a simple workbook to assist you in reflective practice and creating a better year for you and your business.

MY DREAM YEAR OF 2020

To gain access to the workbook, subscribe to our newsletter and receive regular updates and tips about stress management and productivity.

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